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It’s a man’s world. Isn’t it? It’s not? Well! I am not the deciding authority. You decide!!! I’m going to talk about a few truths in this blog. I like it when my husband leads. I like it when he drives and I am in the passenger seat. I like it when he is the primary breadwinner. I even like it when he opens the rice box (it is very tight for some reason. But…. It’s a good box. And… I have my husband to open it).

Why? Because I just like it. I was never this “dependent”. I was raised by a mother who had to do most of the work by herself. She was the primary bread winner. I am gifted to have a husband who participates in my life. And to return the favor, I participate in his life.

I know that there are many women out there who chose or are choosing not to have a man in their life. I should know. I have a few friends who’d made that choice. Good for them! Some of them are happy to be single and super, and some of them wish to have a better man in their life. Again! Their choice.

But, I am not going to talk about that here (😊 that’s a whole new blog topic). I am going to talk about the simple stuff of how much participation in another person’s life is acceptable. Is it ok to steamroll a person’s life to your wish? Just because you care for them? Men and women do this.

“I can’t access my husband’s phone!” My friend told me, “why has he suddenly changed the password”. Because its his phone! “My wife is not sleeping at 10:00 pm. I get disturbed every time she turns the light on in the bedroom”, another friend told me “Oh! Why? I asked? You could talk to her about turning the lights on”, “In the hall…. I want her to sleep early. I care about her”. Seems simple enough right?

But his wife is a grown adult, and it’s her husband’s phone. Our spouses are not out children. We cannot, should not, control their actions because we can. The husband probably wanted privacy. Shouldn’t she give him that. He definitely deserves it. And the wife definitely has the right to choose when she sleeps (maybe she was working around the house. Cleaning the kitchen. I am just relating  here..).

Where should you draw the line? Do you think it is good for men and women (who are in relationships) to always intervene in each other’s life?

Let me know is the comments….